I thought the first post I wrote would be my most difficult. Au contraire, mon ami! I felt the urge to sit down and write and yet again, I am at a loss as I sit in my “hot seat.”
It begs the question, “Why, then would I put forth the effort of starting a blog if I have no real inclination to continue with this project?” Lord knows, I have more than enough WIPS laying around my house. (By the way, WIPS in the crafting world stands for Works In Progress) What is holding me back? Why am I at a loss for words, which is not typically a problem I have?
Well, grab a cup of tea, coffee, wine, whatever you fancy and I’ll get mine. We can chat about this thing called PERFECTIONISM.
Ah, yes, a friend and foe all wrapped up in one word. For me, it means that I like to do things well. I have my desired end result in mind and I am driven to “nail it.” It also means that one little slip up will send me on a downward spiral into frustration that will ultimately lead me to walk away “just to get a breather.” The only problem is that I rarely ever return!
I am realizing in my old age (and according to Audrey Hepburn, I am qualified to wear pearls. Don’t get that reference? Look it up!), perhaps I just need to show up and be real and NOT PERFECT! Reality for me means that I have many weaknesses but I also have many strengths. Oh how I wish we would all see ourselves for our strengths and simultaneously working on our weaknesses! I look at my girlfriends and see so much potential, so many beautiful attributes, skills, and talents. At the same time, so many of us are too caught up on our weaknesses, not being PERFECT, that we forget that someone else might have a need that we can fulfill.
I don’t know a lot, but what I know, I KNOW. Sounds a bit redundant, right? What do I know? Well, I know how to love my family and friends passionately. I also know how to plan a good snack spread for my Wednesday morning Women’s Community ladies. Is that vanity speaking? Without sounding arrogant, I would say, “Nope.” It’s a learned skill but it’s something I work hard to continue improving upon. I also know how to comfort and encourage ladies in the tender months of pregnancy and thereafter. I’ve spent many late night and early morning hours texting and talking with pregnant friends. Am I bragging, tooting my own horn? I hope not.
I am not naïve to think that I know it all. Even though I KNOW what I know, what I don’t know, I.DO.NOT.KNOW. Seriously, I’m a clueless Morgan much of the time. That’s where my friends and family come in. Each and every one of them has something to “toot their own horn about” and I am eager to learn from them. A friend of mine has a daughter who is an artist. She was clearing out some of her old work one day and offered to give my children some of her old canvases to paint over. Of course, I gave a resounding, “Yes, please!” When her Mom delivered the half-done canvases, I was AMAZED at some of the work I saw. I just couldn’t believe that someone would want to stop halfway through such a gorgeous piece of work and walk away! I later asked the young artist why she didn’t finish the pieces that I was more than happy to accept. Some of them even ended up on my wall. She gave me a strange look and said, “I just didn’t like them. Really, to me they are junk.” Ach! I wanted to take her beautiful face in my hands and ask her why she didn’t see the potential in those pieces?
Why? Well, I’ll tell you why. She did what so many of us do. We see the things that aren’t going our way from the start. We look at our imperfections and forget that we’re still a work in progress and we won’t see the final result until we are finished. We expect PERFECTION from the very beginning. We don’t think we could mentor a friend because…well, what if she knew I was really a basketcase underneath all of this put-together-ness? Well, sweetheart, let me be the first to say…WELCOME! Come right on in and pull up a chair.
At the end of the day, none of us are PERFECT and there is no need to be. All of us are a canvas half-painted and perhaps it’s time to start seeing the potential in ourselves as well as others around us. Perhaps it’s time to LIGHTEN UP, accept, celebrate, and give of our strengths all the while working on our weaknesses, downfalls, and pain-points. There’s a whole world waiting out there for us to drop the lie that we have nothing to offer until we have achieved perfection. And if you don’t believe that the world is waiting for you, please believe that I certainly am!
God bless you all and until next time.